Seton-La Salle students send in their questions, anxieties, and issues that they face (anonymously) to Liz, in hopes to get her creative and helpful advice….
My family is going through a very difficult time. My parents have decided after 23 years of marriage that they are getting a divorce. I am the oldest in my family and I have a younger brother and we are very upset because our family has always been extremely close.
I am equally as close with both my parents, so I have a very big decision to make. I do not know who to live with. My brother has decided to stay with my dad most of the time because him and my mom do not get along. For me, this is really hard because I do not want my parents to feel that I am choosing sides. Please help me make the right decision.
First, I want to start off by saying that I am very sorry about the problem you are facing with your parent’s divorce. I know that this can be a confusing time for anyone. My advice to you is do NOT choose sides because you don’t have to. I am sure that your parents have talked and truly feel bad about this situation and do not want to make this even more stressful on you. They WILL understand. It may take time and some discussing, but soon things will fall into place. Try sitting them both down and making an equal schedule of your time split between the both of them. If that works, wonderful! If not, keep talking to them until a plan is set in place that everyone can attempt to agree with. Remember, this divorce does not minimize the love your parents have for YOU. Good luck with everything!